Learning to Let Go

Assalamualaikum,

18 days from now, I'll be in my 30's. 30 years of life experience. 30 years of ups and downs. Coming to 30, there is one important lesson that I've learned while in my 20's, learn to let go. It is not easy and cannot be taught from 1 person to another. Even the understanding of it cannot transcend from one person to another. Through life experiences especially the heartbreaking ones, you will understand what I mean.

I learn to let go my grudges against people, even the ones who causes me pain.
I learn to let go my anger on petty matters.
I learn to let go money owed to me.
I learn to let go hurtful remarks made by friends.
I learn to let go all the bad things that has happened to me & not blame it on others.

You may ask how I did it.

It is hard to let go, but it is easy if it is paired with 'patience'. I love my life now. For those who intend to inflict pain on me, I will not be angry with you. I will be sad because you chose that kind of attitude when you actually can choose a different path.

Being angry at people literally makes your heart ache. To erase the pain, you have to learn to let go. Don't go around telling people that person A have wronged you and he/she should apologize. Why don't you apologize first? Problem with people now is that they are not listening to the other side. They think they are right therefore people should apologize to them. I feel sad for this kind of people because to me, they have miss out on the beauty of life.